Couples Therapy tips

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Top Tips to get back on track.

1. Listen!

Everybody has the need to be listened to and fully understood.
Sometimes mirroring or simply repeating what your spouse has said, is enough to let him or her know that you have been listening. For example, say something like, “I understand you’re upset because I didn’t take out the rubbish.” Or “I realise that you want to talk about what happened at work today.” Provide evidence that you are paying attention to your partner’s concerns.

2. Set aside regular couple time

Early on in a relationship couples talk as friends, they do fun things, but over time, those ways of connecting change. Work, family, financial problems, all have a way of taking over daily life and eroding the sense of fun that brought you two together in the first place. Bring the fun back – even if you have to book it into the calendar once every week. Sharing a physical activity, like a bike ride or a walk in the park, is especially good for lifting your spirits, along with your heart rate.

Activities like going out for an intimate dinner, staying at home and playing music from your younger days, or watching a favourite film will help both of you to remember why you chose each other. If money is in short supply, do babysitting swaps with a friend and plan a picnic in the park. There are 168 hours in a week: make a commitment to devote at least two of those hours to your relationship.

3. Don’t throw things

Of course, you and your partner are not going to agree about everything, but in expressing disagreement to your partner, playground rules apply – no insults, name-calling or throwing things. If you disagree, do it in a civil way. Don’t make the other person wrong, don’t say he’s stupid. Instead, say: “You think we ought to do this. I have another thought about it.'”

If your disagreement seems to be escalating, call a mutually agreed upon time-out, and make a plan to continue the discussion after a cooling-off period. Keeping things on a calm, even keel is better for your blood pressure and your relationship.

4. Turn up the heat

If your sex life is diminishing or you’re not having sex as often as one partner in the relationship would like, then getting your sex life back on track may be a priority.

Think about your partner as someone you desire – and someone you want to entice to fall in love with you over and over again. Pay attention to your grooming, be romantic, and don’t take your partner for granted.